We as a human beings are a social creatures. We can hardly
survive on our own for long time. Especially when we are born, we need a
lot of care and love to grow and survive.
There
is usually a naturally strong bond between the mother and the child
formed as they meet in this lifetime. We would not make it very far if
we tried to survive without the help of another grown up person. That's
our first relationship, right there. Mother & Child.
As we grow up, we are most likely going to expand this relationship into broader areas. Firstly wider family and later on into community, and perhaps into the worlds as we travel and meet others on the journey through life.
In respect of the relation to people, we gather our beliefs and values very early in life, some say within the first 7-10 years of childhood. Once we have formed our belief structure, we became a little bit like bionic robots. Rehearsing and reactivating the beliefs that are interwoven in our mind.
Providing we had a good loving relationship with our mother and even father, we would have a sound base from which to look out for our own relationships. However, if there was some issues between parents and the child, there could be almost permanent scar affecting our own love issues.
Infatuation or instinct?
Once we outgrow the security of our childhood, we start to intuitively look around and seek a partner to share our own life. Whether it's a natural selection or instinct or so-called physical attraction, that is at work in the early stages of our relationship evolution, we are usually firstly drawn to people who somewhat resemble our internal ideal formed early on in life. That ideal can, and usually does, change through any testing period in our life. However, some aspects will stay the same. We usually only add more restrictions.
As we grow up, we are most likely going to expand this relationship into broader areas. Firstly wider family and later on into community, and perhaps into the worlds as we travel and meet others on the journey through life.
In respect of the relation to people, we gather our beliefs and values very early in life, some say within the first 7-10 years of childhood. Once we have formed our belief structure, we became a little bit like bionic robots. Rehearsing and reactivating the beliefs that are interwoven in our mind.
Providing we had a good loving relationship with our mother and even father, we would have a sound base from which to look out for our own relationships. However, if there was some issues between parents and the child, there could be almost permanent scar affecting our own love issues.
Infatuation or instinct?
Once we outgrow the security of our childhood, we start to intuitively look around and seek a partner to share our own life. Whether it's a natural selection or instinct or so-called physical attraction, that is at work in the early stages of our relationship evolution, we are usually firstly drawn to people who somewhat resemble our internal ideal formed early on in life. That ideal can, and usually does, change through any testing period in our life. However, some aspects will stay the same. We usually only add more restrictions.
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